What Does Our Intensive Counseling Retreat Look Like?
The Better Black Marriages retreat format is a program of two days or three days depending on your individual situation and the needs of your relationship.
We’ll help you figure out which format is best for your needs. After receiving confirmation of your signup, we’ll get to work immediately.
We’ll start by having you fill out some questionnaires in order for us to get a comprehensive understanding of your situation. In some cases, we’ll follow up with telephone/skype interviews so that we’ll have a good grasp of your relationship’s needs in advance of your arrival.
Our goal is to gain as much understanding of your relationship and the challenges it faces before your intensive retreat begins. Once you’ve been able to settle into the accommodations of your choosing, we’ll get things started by meeting with you face to face.
We’ll spend the afternoon getting to know you better and gaining more insight into your mutual goals as a couple and the problems facing your marriage.
This personal ‘get acquainted’ session also gives us an opportunity to fine tune our approach to working with you and helping you with your specific situation.
Communication is the essence of every successful relationship, and it’s also the foundation of our counseling program. We’ll teach you some techniques that have been proven successful at improving the interpersonal communications dynamic within a marriage.
As we begin to communicate with each other on a deeper level, we can start to get a clear picture of how the problems in your marriage started and what will be necessary to move beyond them. When each partner can communicate with the other honestly, positively and with the goal of finding resolution the other issues often take care of themselves quickly.
Our philosophy of a good marriage is one in which each person can live as an individual and join in a union of shared goals and values. For that reason, the program for working with every couple is unique both in content and structure.
The process is intensive but not overwhelming, and there will be time for breaks, snacks and other ‘downtime’. Our goal is to provide an immersive atmosphere for more intense counseling than is possible in hourly sessions twice a month, not to browbeat you into submission.
Even though the specific tools we use may vary the result is to help you learn about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
We’ll show you ways to express your needs more clearly and to better understand your partner. Many relationship problems find resolution simply by improving the lines of communication between husband and wife.
You’ll find us to be highly skilled, effective and likable team with the dedication and experience necessary to achieve meaningful and lasting improvement in your relationship and marriage.
Our approach is non-sectarian and interdisciplinary–we combine a variety of techniques and methodology to best address the needs of each couple’s relationship.
Each daily session lasts four hours. Our experience has shown that this is the ‘sweet spot’ for balance the desire for intensive work with the human capacity for mental, physical and emotional overload.
It’s greatly advantageous over the typical ‘one hour once or twice a month’ couples’ therapy. The afternoons will be free for you to rest or recreate however you want.